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Save the boys, educate the boys

The call of ‘Beti Bachao, Beti padhao’, which translates to ‘save the girl child, educate the girl child’ is very famous in India right now. I wholeheartedly support it. Being a girl child, I understand how important education is.

But I think, personally, that our boys need more attention than our girls.

Let’s think about it.

When a woman walks down the road, it’s men who whistle and pass lewd comments.

When a woman is wearing, well, anything at all, it is the man’s desire and lust which apparently justifies his want to rape that woman.

When a baby girl is born, it is the decision of the ‘male’ of the family whether she is going to study or not.

When a woman says ‘no’, it is the man’s ego which is hurt and he believes that his emotion is more important than a woman’s consent.

Right now, it is the men who are being stupid, arrogant, emotional and well, wrong.

Still, women are taught to keep their head down and ignore those comments.

Women are taught to cover up their bodies, though it will make no difference as the problem is not with the clothing, but the mindset.

Women are asked to give up on their dreams.

Women are taught to say ‘no’ politely so that man’s ego is not hurt.

 

I think, that the men are not to put in blame either.

Why? Because they are being taught that all of this is fine.

Men are not taught that they are wrong. They seriously need education more urgently than women need self-defence tips.

There are two cases:

One, when a boy is born in a family, there is happiness everywhere. His life is planned out even before he could start speaking. He will grow up, get a good job, make his parents proud, get married one day and take care of his poor old parents. His dreams? Yeah sure, he can do whatever he wants to do as long as he has a good paying job, a respectable position and parents get to brag about it.

The son has to be strong, he can’t be weak. He has to be physically as well as mentally strong. He cannot cry-why, crying is for girls! He has to meet up with the expectations of the society and get good grades-no, no, he doesn’t have to be a topper, just a good student so that he can get a good job. Arts, what Arts? There is no subject as Arts! My son is either a science or a Commerce student.

If the son is feminine, oh dear lord! Are you a sixer? Why are you so girly? Man up! Because masculinity means heavy voice, strong body and facial hair.

Two, where the boy is at the top of the world. He is basically Dudley Dursley from Harry Potter. He gets 37 presents every birthday, his face is present at every wall of the house, he might fail in exams, but who cares? He is the star son.

He can go out with friends anytime he wants to. Ohh, you want a bike? Sure, go on son! Standing on the road and checking out women? Oh, haha! He is just a boy, poor boy, what does he know? Boys will be boys no! Once he gets married, he will understand everything.

Huh, I feel poor for both the kinds of boys. One is forced to become who they are not and the other doesn’t even know what a good person is!

 

See? One kind of men needs saving and the other needs education.

I say it’s time. Boys need to be saved educated now. Girls need to take up this responsibility because let’s accept it, there are very few people who actually understand where they are going wrong.

It’s time to save our boys and educate our boys.

 

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Pansexuality and Asexuality: Yup, they do exist

In the LGBTQ+ community, there are many identities. We all know the basic

Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender and Queer.

However, see the little plus at the end? the ‘+’ sign? Yeah, it means that there are more identities that you might not know about.

Two identities were, people still have a hard time accepting them.

They say that they don’t exist.

Well, excuse you Mr and Ms and whatever pronouns you use, BUT PANSEXUALITY AND ASEXUALITY ARE REAL!!!

What is Pansexuality?

The sexual, romantic or emotional attraction to someone regardless of their sex or gender identity.

Yup, this is different from bisexuals. Bisexuals are merely interested in men AND women. Those are the two sexes and the gender identity they are attracted to. Pansexuals, on the other hand, are attracted to gender-fluid and many other gender identities in addition to the people identifying as Men and Women.

There is a serious difference, people.

And no, it DOES NOT mean that pansexuals will have sex with any’thing’. They will not have sex with children or animals because excuse you, they are not monsters. For the kind information, they fall in love with a person, a human irrespective of their gender identity.

And as for Asexuality, well, well, well!

The most common argument I have ever heard against this is: You ave never tried sex, how do you know whether you like it or not?

I am sorry, you have never tried drugs, how will you know whether you like it or not?

There is a thing known as ‘sense’ and more commonly, ‘common sense’, which seems to be rather uncommon in today’s mass.

Being NOT sexually attracted to someone IS NORMAL

I know three people so far who are not comfortable with touching. I have asked them, “Would you like a hug?”

I have been rejected a lot of time.

Are they asexuals? I don’t know.

But see? People know whether they like touching or not. Some people find the idea of anything sexual very ‘creepy’ and ‘disgusting’. Some people are fine by the theory but they DO NOT like Practical. Some people like the idea, but are not very attracted to it.

These are all asexuals.

And mind you, asexuals are not aromantic.

I repeat, ASEXUALS ARE NOT AROMANTIC!

They still like the idea of holding hands, having a night out and stuff like that. Well, not all, but some do.

So please, please, my fellow human beings, increase you mind capacity and add these to poor communities who are still fighting for recognition even in their own community!

Who are you?

Have you ever thought about who are you? Have you ever thought what is the meaning of your existence here, in this world? Have you ever wondered if you really have a purpose on this Earth?

If you are anything like me or even a Gen Z kid, I think you must have.

Truth is, I don’t know either. I am trying to find it out. I am trying to find my purpose, my life’s aim. Not my dream, not my idea, but for whatever reason, I was born and brought into this world.

Too philosophical? Too mystical?

Okay, let me get back to the topic in hand.

Who are we? A few days ago, I talked to my classmates on this topic and I realized, many people did not know who they are. Self-discovery is practically unknown to a lot of people.

For a moment, close your eyes and imagine, just imagine that you have no relation with the person in front of you. They do not know anything about you. People do not know about your country, they do not know your parents, all they are interested in is who you are.

And if you can introduce yourself to this random person without any reference to your roots, congratulations my friend-you have a unique identity.

Self-discovery means finding that out. Finding out who you are if you have no roots.

Without my roots, without my past affecting my life in any way, I am a young girl who likes to read anything and everything that she can get her hand on, someone who wants to learn all the possible languages, someone who likes to help others and someone who wants to sit down beside any river in Meghalaya and spend the rest of her life there.

That is me without my past and my roots binding me down.

It is important to have this identity. This identity, this particular identity will help you so many times.

This identity may change over time. This identity may absolutely be wrong in a few years’ time. But as long as you have this identity, you will have that idea of the work that you have.

I personally believe that each one of us has a purpose on Earth. It could be something as small as stopping someone from crying or as big as finding the truth about Atlantis-but each one of us has a purpose in life. We must keep working to find that purpose. And in the path of finding it, we should keep working on achieving all our dreams and making ourselves happy.

In the great Poet Max Ehrman’s words:

“You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. ”

So, once again, I ask this question.

Who are you?