The call of ‘Beti Bachao, Beti padhao’, which translates to ‘save the girl child, educate the girl child’ is very famous in India right now. I wholeheartedly support it. Being a girl child, I understand how important education is.
But I think, personally, that our boys need more attention than our girls.
Let’s think about it.
When a woman walks down the road, it’s men who whistle and pass lewd comments.
When a woman is wearing, well, anything at all, it is the man’s desire and lust which apparently justifies his want to rape that woman.
When a baby girl is born, it is the decision of the ‘male’ of the family whether she is going to study or not.
When a woman says ‘no’, it is the man’s ego which is hurt and he believes that his emotion is more important than a woman’s consent.
Right now, it is the men who are being stupid, arrogant, emotional and well, wrong.
Still, women are taught to keep their head down and ignore those comments.
Women are taught to cover up their bodies, though it will make no difference as the problem is not with the clothing, but the mindset.
Women are asked to give up on their dreams.
Women are taught to say ‘no’ politely so that man’s ego is not hurt.
I think, that the men are not to put in blame either.
Why? Because they are being taught that all of this is fine.
Men are not taught that they are wrong. They seriously need education more urgently than women need self-defence tips.
There are two cases:
One, when a boy is born in a family, there is happiness everywhere. His life is planned out even before he could start speaking. He will grow up, get a good job, make his parents proud, get married one day and take care of his poor old parents. His dreams? Yeah sure, he can do whatever he wants to do as long as he has a good paying job, a respectable position and parents get to brag about it.
The son has to be strong, he can’t be weak. He has to be physically as well as mentally strong. He cannot cry-why, crying is for girls! He has to meet up with the expectations of the society and get good grades-no, no, he doesn’t have to be a topper, just a good student so that he can get a good job. Arts, what Arts? There is no subject as Arts! My son is either a science or a Commerce student.
If the son is feminine, oh dear lord! Are you a sixer? Why are you so girly? Man up! Because masculinity means heavy voice, strong body and facial hair.
Two, where the boy is at the top of the world. He is basically Dudley Dursley from Harry Potter. He gets 37 presents every birthday, his face is present at every wall of the house, he might fail in exams, but who cares? He is the star son.
He can go out with friends anytime he wants to. Ohh, you want a bike? Sure, go on son! Standing on the road and checking out women? Oh, haha! He is just a boy, poor boy, what does he know? Boys will be boys no! Once he gets married, he will understand everything.
Huh, I feel poor for both the kinds of boys. One is forced to become who they are not and the other doesn’t even know what a good person is!
See? One kind of men needs saving and the other needs education.
I say it’s time. Boys need to be saved educated now. Girls need to take up this responsibility because let’s accept it, there are very few people who actually understand where they are going wrong.
It’s time to save our boys and educate our boys.